Have you ever experienced being lost in someone? It is so easy to trigger that romantic, blissful feeling associated with just seeing their face or wanting them to be near you. It’s easy to imagine that movie scene of being”lost in their eyes” as you listen to a romantic love song, stop time together, and your lips meet with a kiss. It’s easy to want to be lost when “being lost” triggers these good feelings.
Being lost in someone can be more than just a romantic, blissful journey. It can be a journey of anger, sadness, fear, blame, and even pain. It can become a time in your life where you lose parts of yourself out of that desire to be a part of someone else, where you feel slightly insecure and unsure of everything; your destination unknown. Searching.
How often do we long to be lost? Lost in LOVE.
I have experienced both polarities in my life. I’ve felt the thrill of those magical lost moments in my relationships, and I have also felt when pieces of me slipped away and my life became all about them and less about me. I didn’t like how that felt, because at times I questioned who I was. It was easy at times to stay caught up in it, and yet at the same time it felt so hard.
Life being hard, yes that was one of my clues and my triggers toward change.
The reflections I saw did not feel good. For powerful change I knew I had to look inward, and when I looked inward my destination became clear, it was a full circle back to me. No longer about them. The searching was over, I was no longer lost because i found myself. I like to say I found my way home. In saying so, I am sweetly reminded of one of my favorite books, The Alchemist.
I makes me wonder that perhaps it takes getting lost in someone else to truly discover and find yourself? Perhaps.
I am also sparked to share a poem titled, Lost In You. It describes place I believe we have all been, are, or maybe long to be. Lost.
Lost In You
Losing myself, I become someone else
Get so lost in you
These words that I speak, reduced I feel weak
When I’m lost in you
and I try to divide, but only get more entwined
I’m so lost in you
and I don’t know who I am anymore…
Doing things I won’t normally do
as I ache to get closer to you,
never quite reaching the stars,
here alone in the dark I’m so lost
I’m so lost in you
But sometimes I just feel so alive!
with the beat of my heart pounding inside
and the thought of you here at my side
I get lost, so easy…
I get lost in you.
and I don’t care if I’m ever found!
Letting go of my dreams, coming apart at the seams
feel so lost in you..
and I search for the person I knew
but all I see in the mirror is You
all the signs pointing me to what is true
and my heart tells me what I must do..
to find my way…
I’ll find my way home.