When it comes to your relationships, the most important person to be honest with is yourself. If you can’t do that, chances are you will never be truly honest with another anyway. Today I pondered the topic of honesty. I decided to let my mind just wander, and let my fingers click the keyboard.
This is what flowed:
Don’t question being here. This is where you are. Don’t question what you feel. Feel it, feel all of it, every ounce of emotion that shows you are alive! Feel your love, feel your anger, feel your joy, feel your sadness. The key is, be willing to feel it!
You never need to make excuses for any of your feelings. When you come to know this you will feel your own judgment about those feelings slip away. Don’t try and stop your own heartbeat, it shows that you are alive, and so do your feelings.
You don’t need to deny, explain, justify, pretend, or do any of the other things people do to dismiss what they feel. The more honest you are in any moment with yourself, the more you are able to move forward, to grow, to live, and the more able you are to love!
Let go of pretending because the only relationship you really ruin by pretending is the relationship you have with yourself. Feeling is courageous! Even if that feeling is a feeling of despair rather than joy. Embrace these polarities within you and you will find that you can also embrace the world!
Life really is easy. The more you love, the more you live, and the more you live, the more alive you feel! But, this loving begins with a love for yourself…and a love and acceptance of your polarities. It is a love for ALL that you are. As you do you, will come to love and accept the polarities in others.
Letting go of this judgment of yourself allows you to let go of the judgment of others. It allows you to give more, and to receive back. You cannot receive what you cannot give.
You want honesty in your relationships. You must be willing to give that honesty so that you can receive it. Your honesty must begin with you, because if you cannot be honest with yourself, you have nothing to give, and there will be no honesty to receive.
Which brings me back to your feelings. How willing are you to truly feel? Are you willing to let go of what you THINK you should feel and accept what you DO feel? Are you ready to look in that mirror and see clearly?
I will admit that sometimes I want to see something other than what I feel, and other times I want to feel something other than what I see. When however, I am willing to really “see” exactly what it is I feel…. and accept it…..it is from there that miracles truly happen.
Once I accept my own emotions (regardless of what these emotions are) it is from here that I am at a place of honesty with myself. The key now is for me to be to make new choices based on this honesty, and be willing to act on these choices.
When I have made choices out of a place of deceiving myself, the outcomes have not made me very happy, and my choices only deceived others as well. When however, I am honest with myself, and I act on it….I have found it is the biggest form of self love and LOVE I can give.